Things have been strained for a while, a sort of tension exists that neither of us has been quite able to put a finger on. For the past couple of years, we've been fighting and arguing over this and that. Looking back, they seemed like pretty serious things at the time. We're alike in the fact that neither of us takes the little things too seriously, but we're also very different in our views of devotion and importance of friends in life. To me, friends are the best things in life. Of my friends, I expect very little in the way of time spent together. I don't want them to strain themselves to make things work, I mean it should be easy if you're meant to be friends with someone.
I'm not sure exactly what my best friend's philosophy on friendship is, but I've been trying to find out. She's just so casual about it, even when it's obvious that friendship is most important to me because it's all I've ever really had. I guess she doesn't really get that, and that's okay. I understand. I realize that now, and I can see that I wasn't being sensitive to the fact that she was honestly trying to understand how I think and feel. At the same time, I wish she had tried a little harder. I admit that I wasn't making it easy for her by shutting her out and pushing her away. That's just me, I tend to do that. I'm sorry for being that way, but it's what I apparently think needs to be done. I guess I really screwed this one up. I should have told her everything sooner.
The evening was awkward. I know for a fact that such a thing should never happen when around someone you regard as your best friend. We just didn't talk much at all, which is unusual for the both of us. When we used to be together, we simply couldn't be separated. We were two peas in a pod, best buddies, compadres. I guess the fun wore off and now all that's left is the seriousness and the damage I've done. While texting each other and planning what we would do, which I hate because I like to speak to my friends face to face in the flesh, we came up with so many brilliant ideas. We were having fun just planning everything, talking and enjoying each other's attention. It was a few nights before.
As soon as she came here for our last sleepover together for a long time, she was very quiet. I couldn't understand it, it was just all so awkward and weird. We went to bed early, only two in the morning. This wouldn't have been so strange if we had done more with our evening. We went to see a movie, we came back to my house, we watched TV, we looked through some old pictures we drew when we were in the same study hall as high school freshmen, and we went to bed. I don't know what to think or feel. Should I be disappointed in myself for perhaps not suggesting more for us to do together to get things moving more smoothly? Should I be okay with what we actually managed to do because in the end we still spent quality time together? Should I be worried about the strange awkwardness that hung over us? Should I blame the fact that our friendship has been warped and twisted into something just all wrong because for a long time we've only communicated electronically? I don't blame her, that's for sure. We've both been busy, and I really do understand how hard it is to correctly balance things in your life to accommodate everything. Still, it worries me. I don't feel like I can talk to her anymore. It's like I've ruined things so much that I don't think things will ever be normal again. I'm always so afraid of saying something to her that I shouldn't. I don't want to lose her. Sometimes it feels like I lost her a long time ago.
She's gone now. She left a little while ago. I still have a week to make things right. I guess I can only hope that we work things out and come to an understanding. That's my only hope. One Week. Dammit.